Many women have seen squirting in porn (often exaggerated) and wonder whether it’s real. Squirting is a natural, pleasurable part of sexual arousal when the G-spot is stimulated.
The fluid ejected can range from a trickle to a gush, and the amount can vary from woman to woman. Women may squirt before, during or after an orgasm.
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How to Squirt
Squirting is not something women are meant to do on command, but rather something that happens when the body feels aroused and ready to release fluids. And while the idea of female ejaculation may feel taboo to some people, the fact is that it’s real and can be very pleasurable. The fluids released during squirting are not urine but lubricating fluid from the body’s glands (similar to male ejaculation without sperm). The fluid comes from the urethral sponge and is stimulated when touching the G-spot.
To get to a point where squirting is possible, both partners should warm up with lots of foreplay and slow, smooth movements that build in pressure. Then, to ensure the woman has enough juice in her urethral sponge, she should focus on stimulating her G-spot and the clitoris. This may come from fingering, penetration with a partner’s fingers or toys, or different types of stimulation. It’s important to know where the G-spot is, which is a few inches inside the vagina and can be felt as a spongy raised bump or ridge.
Once the woman feels ready to squirt, she needs to relax and let go. It will probably feel like she has to pee, which is a sign that the fluids are ready to release.
Warmup
Female squirting, also known as female ejaculation or simply “gushing,” is when the vulva emits clear, odorless fluid in response to sexual stimulation and orgasm. It’s not pee; it results from the urethral glands and the surrounding “sponge” becoming engorged with blood. The sensation resembles peeing, but the squirt is usually watery and feels lighter. Squirting has been around for 2,000 years, documented in the Kama Sutra and other ancient sex manuals. But many women are unaware they can squirt and may be reluctant to try.
The key to a successful squirt is warmup and buildup. Squirting requires the vulva to be at full capacity for arousal, which happens when the clitoral and labia swell up and become darker, and the vagina is wet from foreplay. This is a slow process; don’t rush it.
Set the mood with lots of foreplay, and use a lubricant to make a woman squirt. A good quality lubricant is ideal, but even toilet paper can do the trick. Prep the area, too—laying down a towel or a waterproof throw like Liberator’s can help limit concerns about a messy bed and make clean-up easier. Also, it’s important to remember that if she’s not squirting yet, she may have some unconscious internal blocks and will need your unconditional love and support as she works through them.
Buildup
It takes time to build up the tension that will erupt into a squirt. That’s why foreplay is so important. During foreplay, a woman should practice the techniques she feels most comfortable with and enjoy lots of slow, intimate touching. Ideally, the woman should be relaxed and very turned on before she starts her squirting routine. She should think sexy thoughts about her partner and get into a sensual mindset.
It’s also important to explore the area and see what areas of the vagina are erotic for her. If she’s hesitant, she should talk with her partner and ensure they’re on the same page about what will work and how to proceed. It’s also important for the woman to know that she will not always squirt. It’s a very pleasurable experience but doesn’t come naturally to everyone.
A common misconception is that female squirting (“gushing”) is the same as female ejaculation. While squirting can occur through clitoral stimulation or G-spot stimulation and occurs around the time of an orgasm, female ejaculation involves clear fluid released from the urethra during or right after orgasm and is not as intense as squirting. Researchers have found that the liquid in squirts and gushing differs from urine, but many squirted people report it has a similar feel to pee.
Release
If you’re interested in squirting (and chances are you are), you’ve probably seen videos of porn stars expelling what looks like liters of liquid from their vulvas seemingly effortlessly. And while some of the stuff in those videos might be a little over the top, the truth is that it’s a very real and pretty sexy thing to do.
Squirting is when a person with a vagina expresses clear, watery fluid from the urethra during or just before orgasm. The amount of fluid can be significant enough to make some women feel like they’ve wet the bed, and it’s a different sensation to female ejaculation. The latter happens when the vulva oozes a milky white substance containing spermicidal secretions, or PSAs, and is released from the Skene’s glands.
While researchers haven’t done much research on squirting, they do know that the liquid expelled is similar to urine and may contain small amounts of PSA. It’s also possible that some of the fluid may come from the bladder, although it’s not known if that would occur during orgasm.
It’s a good idea to take things slowly when you’re first trying out squirting and work your way up to bigger and faster movements. But whether you’re spraying to get an orgasm or because it feels so darn good, it’s important to remember that it is a safe and healthy body function and that there’s nothing wrong with any of it.
